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Making Decisions Today For Tomorrow

This last week I came across an article someone posted on Pinterest, by a mom who was attempting to be helpful to new mothers. She was informing them about decisions they would have to make at the hospital after the baby was born. The article was well written and informative. This mom gave all the options when it came to certain decisions without taking a side in any of the situations.

At the end of the article, in the comment section, women offered up their very diverse opinions (which i have no issue with. That’s what the comment section is for). These women (I’m assuming most of them are moms) all felt very strongly about the opinions the were offering up, and told their stories with pride.

The issue I had with all the comments is that instead of supporting each other as women and as mothers, the moms who felt very strongly about a certain decision went about tearing apart the mothers that made the opposite decision. No one bothered to ask why someone made a certain decision, or how they feel about it now that it has already been made.

http://www.keeperofthehome.org/2012/02/1o-decisions-for-parents-of-newborns.html

I feel such a strong sense of pride in being a mother. I also feel like as a mom, part of my job is to support other moms, share and accept advice, and be understanding of how incredibly different it is to parent every child.

Obviously, this is just how I feel about the situation, but I do not think its okay for moms to attack one another and make other moms feel poorly about themselves because they chose to make one decision or another when it comes to parenting.

In my mind, so long as you do the research and make the decision that feels right for you and your family, that’s all you can do. If things don’t work, most of the time you can change it. That’s what parenting is about, and no one can make decisions for your children better than you. No one knows them better, and every child is so extremely different that you have to take things one day at a time just in order to not go crazy!

I guess the whole reason for this post is to say that we, as mothers, should be a universal support system of advice, war stories, and most of all, full of understanding for one another. Mothers come in so many different styles and colors with different cultures and beliefs, but if you are being the best mom you can be to your children, no one should be able to make you feel down about it.

Jörd

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